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My Argument With It

The pain is in the underlying belief that I can't get there using the current model. Convincing myself of that was a protection mechanism when I made the decision to move to content creation.

Managing Social Issues

Ego identification with opinions and beliefs causes an immediate need to defend that opinion or belief. The ego naturally defends itself. That is a built-in human behavior. It is normal and it is how the ego is meant to operate.

Healing or Fixing?

Am I healing or fixing? I had this conversation in the comments on one of my social media posts and it's a fascinating discussion to have. So, let's talk about it. I need to back up to the beginning of my healing journey to make this make sense. When I

The Story of Self-Mastery

We've still allowed our human to have the moment, cry it out, yell and scream, be mad, or whatever it wants to do. We haven't stopped that. We've just learned how to contain it so that our future is not affected by our present pain.

A Balanced Healing Approach

This is important - if you're stuck in cycles or stories of blame, shame, guilt, and victimization then that's where you need to start mentally working on this. You need to free yourself from these first.

Balancing the Mind, Body, and Spirit

When you watch a sappy movie and it makes you cry, you're reacting to something that isn't yours. The emotion is real but it's not based on any truth. It's based on perception and stories. It creates a distraction for you that keeps you busy.

3D Movie Glasses

When I decided to heal I took those glasses off, actually I threw them across the room not really knowing what I was doing at the time. My world stopped making sense to me and I tossed the filter out.

Fix Your Focus

When the outcome is what you're focusing on, the story and the fear will stop you from achieving your goal.

Your Focus and Your Ability to Push Through

Self-awareness is how you recognize when you can push through and when you can't. It's how you become aware of your own avoidance of things. You don't want to deal with that feeling so you avoid it and squish it.

Finding Well-Being

You have to trust the sharp left. You have to trust yourself to handle that. You have to stop arguing with the fact that it's there. Life is frustrating when you try to control every turn. It causes you to argue with it because you don't think you should have to have those experiences.

Self-Mastery, Control, and Coping Mechanisms

Coping mechanisms; we all have them. We all have ways of functioning in the world and most of them were learned when we were in pain. It doesn't matter whether we learned them in childhood or adulthood, we tend to hold onto the coping mechanisms even after the circumstances have

Lessons From 2022

I have control over the direction I go in, I don't have control over the lessons I need to pick up along the way. When things happen, they don't mean that we need to stop going in a certain direction.

The Pain Behind Cancel, Clear, Delete

We are heading towards an extremely dangerous, violent, life-altering, democracy-ending social crisis if we don't stop cancelling the pain of others.

Your Pile of Problems

You're scared to take your attention off the problems and put it on yourself. Why? Because you're afraid you'll find out that you're the problem.

Stop Hoarding Pain

Permission happens in layers. Which layer do you need to give yourself permission to move through?

The 4 Types of Permission

Permission happens in layers. Which layer do you need to give yourself permission to move through?

Permission Granted

Life and the problems in it can keep me very distracted sometimes. Honestly, there isn't even a good reason for it.

Is That Question Helpful?

When I first started healing, I was doing it for two main reasons. The first was to fix a couple of big problems in my life at the time, but the second was because I wanted the truth.